Mind Your Own Business!

I got upstairs to my mom's this morning and when i went to wake up my son for school I found an envelope for my mother from my sister. My Husband and I are sleeping in our van right outside their complex so that we can still spend as much time with our son as possible and also we keep our food their and shower there, so we are only 'homeless' at night. Anyway I knew there was going to be something about us in this letter. Finally my mom got up and read the letter and handed me each page after she read them. 3 pages front and back! Ok first off my husband and I had to be out two days before Thanksgiving and that time was given to us because my nephew was going to be coming to visit after he graduated from the Marine Corp boot camp. This was understandable. It also wasn't a big deal at the time that we started staying with them because my husband was working! We were not planning on being their longer then it would take us to find an apartment. Well he lost his job and we found out he needed surgery shortly after. Anyway my mom has been trying to get us to stay upstairs instead of sleep in the van. I dont know if I have said this before but my mom is super duper hard of hearing. Her last remaining ear drum is super damaged and she wont take the steps needed to get her a hearing aide, so even though i explained to her the situation of our staying there and sleeping in the van she still choses to interfere. So last night after we went to the van she asked my sister why we couldn't stay since my nephew never came to visit after gradutation? I was mad that she asked because I know how my sister is. We are not close at all but that's not a big deal anymore. The things that made me mad is my sister started say things in the letter that were not right. She knows our mom is a messy person, I am not a neat freak either but if I drop something on the ground I pick it up and I am a lot neater when I am at someone elses house. My mom makes some toast or a sandwich and she leaves crumbs all over the place, yet my sister is saying that she noticed the entire time we stayed up stairs that our living area's were messy and that we used all the dishes and my mom was the one washing them. OH MY GOSH!!! My mom will use almost every dish before washing them. She is one person and she isnt fat like we are but she eats more then we do and she eats like every hour! I love my mom and I am thankful my sister let us stay there when she did but the times she didnt have her own place she had her sister and friends to help her out. It was just her. I have my husband and my son. The times I let my sister live with  me after she was evicted by the same landlord I had he told me not to let them move in but I did. she was there with my nieces a lot longer then 2 months. She was saying in this letter how there are programs out there to help us and that I am making excuses when I say I wont take my son out of his school. He has self esteem issues and has had bullying problems in the past and he is doing well in his school and I am not willing to make his life any harder then what it has to be. She also mentioned that if we can play video games and play on the computer we can get jobs. Ummmmmmm no SHIT! We have both been looking for jobs but the phone she so graciously put out in the living room for us to use is no longer available since she didn't pay her bill!!! So hey no phone number no call backs for jobs! DUH!!! We would have our cell on if The Hubbys Unemployment wasnt suspended! Oh and i am not saying she is responsible for us not at all but she was the one who said she would lend us the money to keep our cell on in the first place then instead of saying no she couldnt afford to do that she just put the house phone in the livingroom. Every morning we folded up our blankets and kept a sheet on the bottom and the back of the couch because I have psoriasis a skin disease that causes a lot of dry and shedding skin, I didn't want to have to constantly vaccum the couch, she never sits in the living room anyway. We also had to clean her cats liter box because she wont do it with people sitting on the  couch or chai, and when we aren't there she wouldnt do it because out stuff was close. REALLY please what a bunch of crock! We have been out of their since the day before Thanksgiving and the liter box is disgusting! She had said she cleaned it out every morning! Uh yea no! even before we moved in over there and would go visit my mom it was usually always nasty! I just don't understand people. If she has something to say to me then she should say it to me. I didn't ask my mom to say anything to her and I wouldn't. We are uncomfortable sleeping in the van but who cares, we put ourselves in this situation by not having any savings for the unknown and that's our problem, to me being homeless isnt supposed to be fun or easy. We are doing the best we can regardless of what she or anyone else thinks. It's easy to say what other's are not doing when they are not the ones doing it or going through it! Later